Steven is now part of my business and has a huge business of his own.
Acquiring people skills is not as hard as people make it out to be. It can be difficult at first but it’s all on convincing yourself that it is not hard to do.
Here’s the thing. If you can go to a gas station and casually talk to people waiting in line to pay for gas then why is it so hard for people to just casually talk to other people when relating it to building your business.
I believe it’s more of a mental block and throughout life you are trained to be nervous to talk to big crowds or even just randomly choosing someone to talk to.
Once i started observing other people talk and listened to the professionalism in their conversations, it made it easier for me to actually go out and do it myself.
Most people are just nervous because they are afraid of screwing up the conversation, so i just started to practice and learn the skills i have and the benefits of my own business.
When you know what you are talking about, it makes it so much easier to talk to people because you are more confident with yourself and with what you are talking about so it makes you feel more at ease and when you feel at ease it makes the person your talking to feel the same.
This is a key necessity when controlling a conversation.
The main thing is you want a conversation to last longer than 5 minutes.
It takes around a minute to take full control of a conversation and get that person to really focus in on what you are talking about.
So make it your goal to find things to talk about so you can keep the conversation going.
You should be able to take 5 minutes to really get to know the person and another 15-20 minutes gaining there attention onto you and your focus.
Starting off with a conversation starter will also set the pace and get the conversation going.
Here are some conversation starters you can try.
How was your summer?
How was your day?
How was your weekend?
Don’t ever ask questions like:
Are you married? Instead ask How is your family?
What do you do for a living? Instead ask How is work going?
Do you have kids? Instead ask them How is your family?
Most important. Be genuinely honest and show concern with their life.
Be that person they know they can come too if they ever need to talk to someone.